Every year, Mother’s Day rolls around. And while it is a beautiful day of celebration, we must acknowledge those who have lost mothers, who have experienced the loss of a child, and women who are longing to be mothers.
Mother’s Day is a day for ALL women.
Moms are the heart and soul of our being – as are our grandmothers, aunts, godmothers, sisters, girlfriends, women educators, and daughters. It truly takes a village, which women have collectively demonstrated for generations. Mothers and children are hurting everywhere. Some have experienced losses that are too painful to bear, and the pain never truly really goes away. Children have lost their moms – some very recently and are not sure exactly how to cope through their first Mother’s Day without her.
On this Mother’s Day, remember to be a friend to those needing it the most. Here are some ways you can be supportive:
SHOW THAT YOU CARE
Know someone who may be going through a difficult time? Simply, show that you care. You may think that you don’t have the right words to say, but checking in, sending a sentimental gift, and just being there are beautiful gestures. Also, see if there is anything you can do to help them take a load off (i.e., pick up lunch, run an errand, etc.)…lend a helping hand. Be prepared that you may not be flat-out asked to assist, in which case, just do it anyway! You will be appreciated for it.
BE A SENSITIVE, LISTENING EAR
We all grieve in different ways. Accept that some may need more time to cope with their losses. But them knowing that you’re only a phone call or visit away would prove very comforting. Be sensitive, offer acknowledgement and be supportive as hell!
QUALITY TIME
Invite them out to brunch or dinner to give them a safe outlet to talk, cry, laugh and just be in good company. Either way, don’t let your friend go through the day feeling alone. Friendships go through so many phases, and although there may not always be happy occasions, knowing that there are people genuinely in your corner is amazingly priceless.
How have you been a support to friends who have experienced loss?
